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2nd Blogiversary — 4/10



Today marks the second anniversary of this blog. I named it “Words Like Me” because of the ambiguity of WORDS like me (words like silly, loud, awkward, intelligent) and words LIKE me (as in they delight in my company, which is a comforting visual with the words much like a clowder of cats.)

I have written in this blog almost every day, sometimes twice in a day, discussing a variety of topics from personal struggles to writing mechanics to current topics to coffee and cats. My favorites are the silly ones (see this post), followed by my angsty crush poetry (I think I’m finally over my crush; haven’t written one of those in a while.)

If there’s any common tie among the topics in this blog, perhaps it’s this: Words are Important. My developmental editor would point out that I need a less passive verb for this, so how would I do this? Words Possess Importance? Maybe.

I have about 20 regular readers and a good number of irregular readers. Most regular readers are from the US, a few from Germany, one each from India, Portugal, Poland, Ukraine, Spain, France, United Arab Emirates, and UK. Russia sends a bot which leaves as its link address various porn sites. My irregular readers originate everywhere from Sweden to Vietnam. I have never seen readers from most African countries or from China. 

This blog has become a part of my life. Sometimes I turn to this blog when I feel introspective, and I write to reflect. Sometimes I feel lonely, and I check to see if anyone has come by to visit. Sometimes I feel very discouraged by the process of getting recognized, whether online or in print, and I vent here. Sometimes I celebrate, like today.

I would like more readers, of course. I would like people to write comments. But the Internet is a very passive place where we consume words without thinking of the live person on the other end. That’s okay; I will keep writing for the people who read me and all the people who haven’t yet.

Here’s to another year of Words Like Me!

Day 35 Reflection: Build

“Build” is a verb that needs an object. We want to know what someone is building, whether it be a home or a skyscraper or a framework for a theory. In other words, building must have a goal. 

To build has different connotations than to create, because creating can happen out of seemingly nothing, while building connotates taking materials and putting them together in ways that make them useful.

This is why we talk about building our futures, not just creating them. Futures need to be solid and believable. They need to hold our future selves without buckling. We are not comfortable with simply creating our future; we want them to take form and show structural soundness. So we build upon the skills and abilities we already have, the existing structure of our lives, and the resources we think we can acquire. 

We are all builders of our own lives and those of our families. As builders, we must hone our skills, our abilities to put the pieces of our lives together to make a harmonious and functional whole.

Day 34 Reflection: Grace

“There but for the grace of God go I.”

I hate this phrase with a white-hot passion. First of all, it paints God’s grace as favoritism that preserves some from trials and tribulations while smiting others. Or perhaps it hints at some virtue the speaker possesses that keeps a retributive God from smiting them. Or judges someone for handling their tribulations in a way that makes their life worse.

No matter, the phrase paints a deity that plays favorites in handing out grace and a world of the holy haves and have-nots. 

This is not how grace works at all. The Wikipedia entry for divine grace defines it as:

[…] the divine influence which operates in humans to regenerate and sanctify, to inspire virtuous impulses, and to impart strength to endure trial and resist temptation; and as an individual virtue or excellence of divine origin. (Wikipedia, 2015).

In this context, grace gives us resilience in life. This makes sense, because one of the purposes of religion is to give people meaning in life, particularly helping to make sense of life when bad things happen. 

So divine grace is something all of us have, whether or not we would call it that. It is the sense of greater-than-ourselves that we rely on in the face of loss. Grace plays no favorites; it does not reward some and neglect others. 

“There but for the grace of God go I” is a very comforting construct, because it suggests that God protects the believer from harm or loss. None of us, however, are immune; God does not arrange the lives of Her followers.  It’s a good thing that real divine grace exists to help us through the bad times.

Day 33 Reflection: Justice

A country without social justice is not great.

A country can possess great wealth, or great power, yet it is not great if it neglects its most vulnerable citizens.

A country that subjects its citizens to unequal treatment under the law has imprisoned itself.

A country that cannot reach its hand to feed the poor has starved itself. 

A country that cannot remove obstacles for access by the disabled has crippled itself. 

A country whose immigration policy is based on color and race has exiled itself. 

To make America great again, we must commit to social justice, because we the people are as burdened as the least of us.

Day 32 Reflection: Transcend

A space exists beyond the mundane, one untouched by everyday drama and the pursuit of worldly things. As humans, we are allowed fleeting glimpses of this place.

Some spy it in the forest, when a ray of light pierces the canopy and illuminates the path. Some discover it in service, when the Divine has touched their understanding of the Other. Some find it in prayer, others in meditation, yet others in solving a difficult problem.  Many stumble across it without seeking and are dazzled by its singular beauty.

But only for a moment. We were not meant to dwell in the transcendent, for to do so would destroy what makes us human: our drive, our basic needs, our social connections. We would starve to death in beauty.

Best we go back to our mundane world after touching the transcendent, to live our lives with a little more grace than before.

Day 31 Reflection: Forgiveness

Don’t forgive unless you’re ready to.

This goes against the common spiritual wisdom that we should be ready to forgive our transgressors, that forgiveness sets us free. Maybe that’s true, and we should forgive the person who cut us off in traffic. 

But there are hurts so deep, so debilitating, that easily forgiving them feels like self-betrayal. Forgiving betrayal, murder, assault — all these feel too heinous to forgive. And yet people clamor to tell the sufferer that they should let go, forgive. Often these people who press others to forgive have something to gain — family members of the violator, the church of the violator, the violator themselves. 

Withholding forgiveness gives a sense of power, maintains the anger that may be needed to recover. Anger is not evil; it’s an emotion. Righteous anger helps us see our value, helps us recover. (Rage, however, consumes us and it’s best not to play with anger until it becomes rage). 

There comes a time, though, when the anger holds us in the past, when we’ve grown beyond the hurt, we have found ourselves again. Then it’s time to forgive.

Day 30 Reflection: Suffering

Suffering exists because someone’s basic needs aren’t being met. Food and water, health, safety and security — without enough of these people suffer. Suffering causes distress — fear, anguish, pain. 

Society holds onto a narrative that paints suffering as ennobling. We admire the hungry villagers, the mentally tortured artist, the once-vibrant person dying of cancer. 

We should admire people’s resilience in the face of suffering, but we should not dismiss their suffering as ennobling. We should instead do the humane thing — see what we can do to help reduce their suffering. It may be that we can provide simple help like food and drink. Maybe we work to dismantle unjust structures that cause people to suffer, like reducing racial bias in policing. Even companionship, understanding, and acceptance may be enough to ease suffering.

Suffering is not noble, but weathering it together may be.
 
 

Day 29 Reflection: Sacred

I looked up sacred and found this definition: dedicated to a religious purpose. Religion is defined as

a set of beliefs concerning the cause, nature, and purpose of the universe, especially when considered as the creation of a superhuman agency or agencies, usually involving devotional and ritual observances, and often containing a moral code governing the conduct of human affairs (BBC, 2014).

In other words, the sacred is set apart from secular (or profane) life through belief in a deity or deities and the worship of those deities. How it is experienced differs from person to person, but there is this sense of specialness, this celebration of mystery, that is held separate from ordinary life.

In these days of “spiritual but not religious”, the definition seems to discount the experience of countless people finding deep, transcendent meaning to their lives and experiences without benefit of organized religion and church services. Some people find experiences in nature as sacred, set apart from the mundane moments of their life. Some find their volunteer work as sacred. Panentheists find the sacred permeating all of their life and do not see a separation of sacred and secular.

Apparently, we need to have the sacred in our lives, a glimpse into the infathomable, the Great Mystery. 


BBC (2014). Religions. Available: http://www.bbc.co.uk/religion/religions/ [April 3, 2019].

 

Day 28 Reflection: Wisdom

We are told that our elders hold wisdom (and having just reached AARP age, I certainly hope so). But at the same time, as people get older, many become more resistant to change. 

We are told that wisdom comes from experience, but some people learn nothing from their experiences.

How do we discern wisdom, then?

Wisdom doesn’t bubble up out of fear or anger, although fear or anger may make us reach for wisdom. It rises from the still pool at the center of our being.  It may goad us to act or ask us to wait, but it does so with a sense of what has gone before and a great deliberation. The answer it gives is grounded in humankind’s best nature, deep in understanding.

Do not mistake wisdom with the resignation of “things have always been this way”, or the self-righteousness of “things have always been this way”. Wisdom is not about preserving or giving to the past. Wisdom is about learning from the past and using it for advancing a life, a people, a world into its future.