I hold grudges. Specific grudges. Long-lasting grudges. I don’t know why I haven’t let go these grudges except they represent disrespect to me, and I don’t like to be disrespected.

The grudges I hold are specifically on women who have tried to steal my boyfriends. There are a couple of them, maybe 3. One of them got into a necking session with my boyfriend (Don’t worry, I’m not with him anymore for good reason), one of them bedded the guy I had a crush on, and the third tried to go to bed with anyone I showed interest in. They didn’t just accidentally end up in bed with someone I was dating, they aggressively went after these guys. This is against the Girl Code^TM .

It’s been almost 40 years in some cases, yet I still hold a grudge. I just can’t countenance disrespect at that level. Would I be a better person if I let it go? I don’t think so; some people are just toxic and I never got an apology.

Luckily, nobody is trying to steal my husband. I guess we all grow up after a while.